Tips for Coping with a New Baby During COVID-19 | Bay Area Walnut Creek Newborn Baby Photographer

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Usually, new parents can seek out social supports and external help—but what happens when we are restricted in our movements and our contacts? What happens when grandparents can't come over to help out, or when neighbors don't stop by for a cup of coffee? What happens when families face job loss, childcare challenges, and more lingering fallout from the COVID-19 pandemic?

Here are a few suggestions:

Try all the soothing tricks. 

Crying babies want to be soothed. You may need to try a few things, over and over, before they calm. Try holding them, feeding them, swaddling them, gently rocking them, singing to them. If these don't work, put the baby down and take a break. Be sure your baby is in a safe sleep environment (on their back on a firm sleep surface with a tight-fitting sheet, away from soft blankets, toys, pillows, and other bedding materials). While some babies cry for a long time, many parents are surprised at how rapidly babies will cry themselves to sleep.

Pay attention to your own needs. 

The challenges of new mothers can certainly feel overwhelming sometimes. Rest as much as you can—try sleeping when the baby does. Find time for yourself when your partner or other caring adult watches the baby. Put on your headphones, give a friend or relative a call, have a cup of tea, or just relax.

Connect with others. 

Social distancing during the COVID-19 outbreak can be isolating. Try video chats or social media to stay in touch. If you're a friend or relative on the receiving end of these calls, listen first before offering suggestions. Imagine you are with the young parent, they are crying on your shoulder, and you are offering reassurance without any words. Keeping this image in mind can help you provide the social support that all new parents need.

Use your “helpers." 

Engage older siblings as much as you can by encouraging them to be your special helpers, so they can help out in developmentally appropriate ways.

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Seek help. 

Depression is the most common mental illness in the United States. If you had a history of depression before your baby was born, you may be at higher risk for postpartum depression. Speak with your provider sooner rather than later to help foresee this potential condition. Many doctors, nurses, and mental health providers are now set up for telehealth visits and may be able to help you by video or phone.

Reach out. 

If you are a friend, relative, or neighbor to a family with a newborn, this is the time to reach out. Think about ways you can help. In addition to social support, can you buy diapers or other baby supplies? Can you drop off food or treats for the siblings or adults? Can you safely supervise older children outdoors? Maybe they could come along with you when you walk your dog!

Help a co-worker out. 

If you are a co-worker of a parent returning to work (especially during social distancing) after parental leave, be kind and supportive. If you see or hear the baby on the call, say Hi!

Find a forum. 

New mothers may find it helpful to discuss their experiences with other new mothers. In addition to seeking help from friends, relatives, neighbors, and medical professionals, look for discussion forums and communities of moms dedicated to sharing problems, stories, and tips with each other online (see the list of resources below).

Your pediatrician is here to help. 

Never hesitate to call for advice. Your pediatricians is an excellent resource for understanding your baby and your own needs, including those related to postpartum depression.

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Tips for photographing your own newborn | Walnut Creek Newborn photographer

Thinking back to baby’s newborn days, a lot of moms find them a blur. What with caring for a brand new baby and recovering from childbirth, it’s understandable for those precious details—baby’s tiny toes, that wrinkly skin, those heart-melting yawns—to be less than crisp in your mind. Which is why many parents opt to celebrate baby’s arrival with a newborn photoshoot. You can hire a professional newborn photographer, or choose to take those newborn pictures yourself. But if you’re going the DIY route, there are a few tricks of the trade to keep in mind.

Take Newborn Photos Within the First Two Weeks

As with so many things, timing is everything—but deciding when to take newborn pictures depends on what kind of photos you’re after. “If you’re feeling great after birth, then while you’re waiting to go home from the hospital bring your camera out and see what you can get. Roll the bassinet right next to the hospital room window and take a few photos of baby napping.” After all, newborns are still in that sleepy, cuddly stage and are easy to photograph—but after two weeks babies become more alert and potentially fussy.

Time Your Newborn Photoshoot Carefully

Any photographer will tell you light can make or break a photo, so consider when and where your home gets the best natural light. But more important than time of day, is the direction of the light. “Your best bet is to find a window that doesn’t have direct sunlight streaming into it—ideally one that faces north or south. Direct sun can cause harsh light and shadows, which is probably not what you’re wanting for your newborn photos.”

Aim for a Sleepy Baby

For the best photos, you want baby to be calm. Sound machines can help lull your little one into a contented state. A happy baby makes your newborn photoshoot go much smoother, but “the easiest way to get a great shot is when baby is peacefully sleeping.

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Keep the Room Warm

Aside from making sure your newborn has a full belly, you’ll also want to ensure the room is toasty warm to keep baby comfortable. “There’s nothing worse than trying to pose a sweet little baby with an air conditioner blasting,” says photographer Charlie Juliet. “No matter how hot it is outside, keep it room-temperature indoors. A cold baby won’t sleep well through a photoshoot, so I try to keep the room as cozy as I can without everyone melting.”

Have Props at the Ready

Baby is of course the star of the photoshoot—but adding in a few props can really make your newborn pictures shine. Need some ideas? “Most people have things around their house they can use,” Mohr says. “Household baskets or Moses baskets can all work well as a prop for your baby. Make sure to put lots of padding on top so baby is comfortable! Baby’s safety and comfort are always the most important things to consider.”

Another handy prop to have: a breastfeeding pillow, like the Boppy. “It can go a long way in helping you nail the perfect photo of baby,” Sulcov says. “Whether your little one is asleep or awake, it’ll keep your hands free and baby upright with their neck protected. Placing a blanket or swaddle over the Boppy will help hide the prop—just avoid big, bright patterns that could get distracting.”

Put Safety First

It’s easy to obsess over styling the perfect newborn picture, but safety should always come first. “Never leave baby unattended, especially around pets,” Marleau cautions. “Also, if you’re shooting from above, especially with a heavier DSLR camera, make sure you put the neck strap on, just in case the camera slips from your hands.”

Clean Your Camera and Keep It Steady

To get crisp newborn pictures, your camera lens should of course be smudge-free. “If you’re using your phone, I recommend first making sure the camera lens is clean. Swaddles are great for cleaning the camera!” Marleau says. Another trick to getting great newborn photos: Keeping your hands steady. “Give the phone time to focus, take a breath in, hold it, then take the shot,” she suggests. “By holding your breath, you’re less likely to shake as you take the picture.”

Swaddle Baby Tightly

When you think of classic newborn pictures, you probably conjure up images of tiny, swaddled babies. But how do newborn photographers get such perfect swaddles? “My biggest piece of advice when it comes to swaddling is this: Don’t be afraid to pull the wrap super tight!” Mohr says. “Babies like it, and it’s the only way to ensure they won’t escape. Babies can be so wiggly!” We all want to nail picture-perfect swaddles, but Mohr recommends starting with a basic swaddle wrap to make sure baby is contained. Then, take a second swaddle blanket and experiment with different wraps. “That way you’re not struggling to get a pretty wrap with baby’s arms and legs flailing!”

Keep the Poses Simple

The froggy pose. The tushy up pose. The taco pose. Photographers have come up with myriad ways to pose babies for picture-perfect shots—but for DIY newborn photos, it’s best to keep things simple. “It takes pros years and hundreds of hours of practicing to fine-tune posing,” Mohr warns. Her advice: Let go of the expectations that your newborn pictures will look like that if you’re not a professional photographer. Of course, that doesn’t mean you can’t still take great photos of baby! “I’d stick to very simple poses that work with baby’s natural positions,” she says. For example, take a sleeping baby and gently raise their arms above their head. “It’s an easy, adorable pose that a parent can do. Babies like to be in this position anyway, which makes it much easier to accomplish! Add a cute hat (or not) and you’re good to go.”

Another great pose for a DIY newborn photoshoot: Putting a sleepy baby on their side, Sulcov says. “You can then play with the positioning of baby’s hands to find the cutest pose. Of course, if baby isn’t in the mood to sleep, open-eyed pics are gorgeous too.”

Don’t Ditch the Diaper Too Soon

While plenty of newborn pictures feature baby in the buff, it can get messy fast. Mohr’s pro tip: Keep babies in diapers when possible, and only remove them for a few minutes of naked baby posing. “If you’re observant, you can get an idea of when baby might need to have a BM. They often get a little squirmy and sometimes even arch their back a bit,” she says. In case your little one decides to go at an inopportune moment, Mohr suggests having an extra diaper nearby to quickly put over baby. Sulcov also knows a thing or two about baby messy mid-photoshoot. Her advice: Make sure to set up the exact shot you want before removing the diaper.

Go for the Close-Ups

“Don’t forget the details!” Marleau says. Capturing close ups of baby’s tiny hands, feet, mouth and eyes are musts—but you’ll also want to document baby’s arm and leg rolls, double chin, umbilical cord and peach fuzz on their shoulders and ears, she says.

Take the Sibling Shots First

If you intend to involve baby’s siblings in your newborn photoshoot, consider doing those group shots first—“that way they can take a break and immediately go play,” Juliet says. “It’s a win-win, because you can continue with the session and your toddler isn’t forced into staying when they don’t want to participate any more.”

Get Candids of Siblings

The best way to incorporate siblings into your newborn pictures is naturally! “Forcing a sibling to sit and smile while holding a newborn baby is pretty much a guarantee for a meltdown,” Marleau says. Instead, she recommends going for more candid shots.

Need some ideas of how photograph your kids together? If the sibling is young and not quite ready to hold baby by themselves, try having them lie on the bed next to your newborn, Marleau suggests. To get them to interact with baby, give them prompts, like “can you touch baby’s nose?” or “what does baby’s hair smell like?” If the sibling is a older and can confidently hold baby in their lap, try giving them a task, like reading baby a book.

If baby’s sibling is a little reluctant to participate, consider having them hold a comfort item, like a specific blanket, doll or figurine, Marleau says. Plus, it gives them something to fiddle with while you’re trying to get the shot. And if that fails, there’s always bribery. “I bring a variety of treats, like stickers or raisins,” Juliet says. “Sometimes it just takes a gummy bear to get that sweet sibling portrait that mom will cherish forever.”

Enlist Extra Help

“When I know a toddler is going to be present during a newborn photoshoot, I make sure there’s an extra person there to help us, whether it’s a babysitter, grandparent or family friend,” Juliet says. “Toddlers don’t last very long and we need someone other than Mom or Dad available to play with the sibling when they want a little break.

Use a Tripod to Get in Your Own Photos

When you work with a professional newborn photographer, they’re guaranteed to snap a few photos of you and your partner together with baby—but when you go the DIY route, getting a photo of yourself with your newborn is a little tricker. Problem solved: Marleau recommends using a tripod (or propping your phone up) and your camera’s self-timer.

Once it’s all set up, get everyone in the frame and set your timer. (Just make sure you get everything set up before you bring your kids into the shot so they aren’t sitting still while you’re trying to figure out the best angle.) To get everyone to crack a genuine smile, try tickling or cracking a funny joke, Marleau suggests. If it’s just you and baby, rub their head, hold their hand, feed them or count their toes—“these are all things that’ll make your photo look more natural,” she says.

Head to the Bed

Wondering where to take those family shots? “I tend to gravitate towards whichever room gets the best light—usually it’s the parents room,” Sulcov says. “I love doing a group shot on the parents’ bed or a comfortable couch.”

Do Your Photoshoot in Stages

When you hire a professional photographer, the photoshoot will likely last a couple of hours—but instead of taking your DIY newborn photos all in one go, Marleau suggests taking them over the course of a few days. “Don’t try to set aside hours to take photos. You’re tired, you’re going to need to feed in between photos and you’re both guaranteed to be completely over it by the time you’re done if you work at it for that long!” she says. “Instead, I recommend setting aside a few minutes each day to take a couple of photos, and then over a few days you’ll have a great variety of shots.”

Take Tons of Pictures

You’re always going to be anxious about whether you captured great newborn pictures—especially when you’re taking them yourself. You might look back over your photos and wish you had taken more, but you’ll never lament taking too many. Sulcov’s advice: Just keep snapping. “If you take tons of photos, one of them is sure to be ‘the shot,’” she says.

Give Up on Perfection

As much as we all want perfect photos, newborn photoshoots don’t always go as planned. “Keep the point of the photos in the back of your mind—to capture this time of your life,” Marleau says. “Think about the details of baby that you’re going to want to remember and capture those. Look for relationships and emotion. I bet a few years down the road, those images will mean more to you than the ‘perfect image’.”

Keep Calm and Photograph On

The key to a successful newborn photoshoot? “Patience and staying calm,” Mohr says. “Babies can pick up on your energy, so getting yourself into a calm state of mind can’t be stressed enough. Have fun with it, and if it doesn’t work the first time, the beautiful thing is that when you’re doing DIY newborn photos, baby is in your house to photograph anytime you’d like!”

Edit Photos for a Polished Look

Didn’t quite capture the right light? Wish you had framed the photo differently? No sweat! A little editing can go a long way. If you’re looking for the best photo editing tools, Marleau recommends SnapSeed, VSCO and Filmborn for editing and cropping phone photos.

Don’t Feel Guilty About Calling a Pro




What to wear for newborn photo session | Bay Area Newborn Photographer

1. LET MOM CHOOSE HER OUTFIT FIRST.

“I think it is really important that everyone feels comfortable. I suggest that the mom selects her outfit first, and that she finds something she is comfortable in. If there are any concerns about her post-pregnancy shape then I suggest wearing something loose or with layers. If the mom is conscious of her cleavage, then I recommend  a higher neckline, since I take photos from many different angles. Once mom’s outfit is selected, the partner can pick something out that he or she loves with complementary colors.”

2. KEEP IT CASUAL.

“For dads, I recommend lighter colored pants (khaki or gray) and a neutral color palette for their top. I like to photograph dads in button-ups and v-neck shirts (which are less casual than crew neck).”

3. CONSIDER WHERE THE PHOTOS WILL BE DISPLAYED.

“When choosing a newborn session wardrobe, think about the final results and how the photos will be featured in the home. For example, you wouldn’t want clothing in loud, bold colors if the home is mostly neutrals and pastels. Then again, if bold contrast is the look you’re going for, that’s fine! Just have an idea of how the final images will look in the home.”

4. GO FOR LIGHTER COLORS.

“I tell my clients to avoid wearing black as it always seems to show lint. I advise them to dress in lighter colors for a softer look, and that layering and textures are great.”

5. GET COMFY.

“I tell my newborn photography clients that I want them to be as comfortable as possible and that they should wear what’s comfortable to them. People aren’t going to photograph well if they are uncomfortable!”

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6. WEAR NEUTRALS.

“I always tell my clients to wear neutral clothing for their newborn photo sessions, because it helps avoid color casts on their skin. This is a must for my sessions since I only use natural window light.”

7. INCORPORATE TEXTURES.

“When I’m photographing newborn babies, I love to bring in the element of texture to add a three dimensional effect to the images. Neutral clothing rich in texture, like lacy tops, chunky sweaters, and thick knits, work so well for newborn photos because they are timeless.”

8. DADS, ROLL UP THOSE SLEEVES.

“I love to see dads in a button-up shirt and will often ask that he roll up the sleeves. There’s something so tender about skin to skin with baby, and I like the casualness and intimacy is adds to the images.”

9. SKIP THE GRAPHIC TEES.

“I ask that my clients stray from graphic tees, as they can often be distracting and take away from the overall image. Funny words and phrases are fine in limited capacity (because, who knows, maybe it will one day tell the story of this time period) but only for a few shots. I want the story to be about the connection between baby and parents. Rather than reading the words “my mom loves me” on a shirt, I want my clients to actually see the love in the photograph.”

10. LIMIT PRINTS AND PATTERNS.




How to Prepare for Your Newborn Photo Session | East Bay Newborn Photographer

There is nothing like those first few days at home with your new baby.

So full of love. So full of awe! And SO tired!

It’s seems like everything you do, even just simple every day tasks, is new. No longer can you just go hop in your car and run to the store, for example. Now you have to get the baby ready, fed, diaper changed, in the carseat, buckled… then you can go out to the car and to the store. It can all be overwhelming to say the least.

I recommend that families come in for their newborn photos within the first 10 days. And I know how hard it can be to just make it out the door in the early days! So let me help make it a little easier by sharing what you need to know to prepare for your newborn photo session.

How to Prepare Your Baby

Try to change and feed the baby right before you leave. A dry and well fed baby will likely fall asleep in the car on the way to the studio.

Most babies who come to the studio asleep will stay asleep for their entire session!

How To Dress Your Baby

Don’t worry about bringing fancy outfits. So save yourself the trouble, and leave the outfits at home. I have everything we will need, props, swaddles, wraps, outfits for the baby.

Expect To Be In The Photos

I always take a few photos of the parents with their new baby for most of my packages, so come prepared! I find that neutral colors work best, and try to stay away from clothing with patters or logos.

Have Fun (And A Sense Of Humor)

My goal is to have your newborn session be relaxing and fun, but sometime newborns have their own plans.

If your baby cries. If they pee or poop on the studio, or even on me…. it’s okay!! I’ve been working with newborns for almost 5 years, and I’m the mother of two. I’ve seen it all and nothing phases me… I promise.

Your photo session is a time to celebrate your baby and your new family! So enjoy it!

Oh, And One More Thing

If despite your best made plans, things happen and you’re running late, no worries… just give me a call or shoot me a text to let me know!

And if you have any other questions about now to prepare, fell free to send me an email at breyburgphotography@gmail.com.

Walnut Creek East Bay San Francisco Bay Area Newborn Photographer | Baby Sleep Regression Ages: When (And Why) They Happen

Sleep Regressions: What They Are

A sleep regression describes a period of time (~3 to 6 weeks) when a baby or toddler who has been sleeping well suddenly starts waking at night, taking short naps and/or skipping naps for no apparent reason. Parents often describe being caught totally off guard: you think you have conquered all your baby’s sleep challenges, when suddenly, out of nowhere, you’re back to constant night wakings and nonexistent naps.

Frustrating, to say the least!!

Remember, every baby is different, so what is true for your friends’ babies may not necessarily be true for yours. That is, your baby or toddler may show true regression signs at some of these month markers, but not others.

That said, there are some ages during which most babies or toddlers go through a regression that affects their sleep:

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4 Month Sleep Regression

This one’s permanent, parents! That is to say that the changes that happen with the 4 month sleep regression are permanent changes. By 4 months, your baby has ditched her babyish sleeping patterns and is sleeping more like an adult – and that translates into frequent night waking (and lots of fussing) along with shortened naps.

6 Month Sleep Regression? Or, a Growth Spurt?

In my 10+ years of experience as a sleep consultant and working with thousands of families over the years, there isn’t a 6-month sleep regression. Some 6-month-olds do have sleep problems around this age, but there isn’t a 3 to 6-week period with chronic sleep problems like the other regressions listed on this page. Sleep regressions happen at many ages but not this one. Learn what’s really happening at 6-months old here:

8 Month Sleep Regression

The 8 month sleep regression is all thanks to the developmental milestones that are happening around 8 months, 9 months, and 10 months. At this stage, most babies are making great strides physically – learning to crawl, pull up, cruise, etc. There’s also a lot of brain development happening at this stage. Your baby is absorbing language like crazy!

Finally, most babies are cutting at least a few teeth during this season. Add it all up, and you get more night waking, shorter (or even skipped) naps, and one cranky baby on your hands.

9 Month Sleep Regression

The 9 month regression is really just a continuation of the one at 8 months. However, some babies don’t start this sleep regression until they turn 9 months old. There is nothing wrong with your baby if sleep was fine at 8 months old but not at 9 months old.

10 Month Sleep Regression

Just like the 9-month sleep regression, the 10-month sleep regression is really just the culmination of the regression at 8 or 9 months, depending on when your baby started this phase. The entire sleep regression lasts 3 to 6 weeks, on average, and some days/weeks will simply be better than others. The main difference with 10-month-olds is that many of them can stand up in their beds, which can complicate matters.

11 Month Sleep Regression

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The 11-month nap regression doesn’t seem to affect as many of our clients as the other regressions do. It seems to be a less common one.

At any rate, this regression has a lot to do with naps – specifically, you might find that your baby suddenly starts refusing their second nap, and tries to get by with just one nap.

Lots of parents assume that this is a normal nap transition and that it means their little one is ready for just one nap a day.

Most toddlers really aren’t ready to transition to just one nap a day until about 15-18 months old, on average.

12 Month Regression

The 12 month sleep regression is really the same as the 11 month regression, though if your toddler starts this one in the 12th month, it’s possible they will actually transition to just one nap early. Still, it’s better to be prudent and treat it as a phase for a few weeks to make sure.